So here it goes: We're definitely doing IVF next year.
I realize in this community my announcement is common place, so you're all probably feeling a little let down that I'm not declaring my race for Governor or launching my own reality TV series. But it feels like a really fucking big deal. While I am (of course) a huge advocate of IVF, I honestly never thought we would need it. From the time we were diagnosed to the time where we decided to do dIUI's, I just never thought IVF would be a part of our plan. I thought I would get pregnant with every one of our six dIUI's. Just like I thought we'd get pregnant right away when I went off Birth Control THREE years ago this month.
I also realize that my news isn't a total surprise since I've yammered on and on about possibly doing dIUI's w/ injectables or IVF hopefully using Brian's sperm, or adoption. But as of about March we pretty much decided we would definitely do IVF. (Though I think adoption will always remain on the table) We still have long road ahead of us. There's going to be some serious
We're hoping to get started in January, no later than February. There are a few other goals included in this six month timeline, but I'll post about them later. For now I just wanted to get this off my chest and tell you that I feel incredibly lucky to know so many of you who've gone through this. So I'll be aware of some of the situations and/or complications that may arise during our cycle. And to have such a vast community of strength and knowledge I can fall back on feels absolutely amazing, so I'm going to thank all you IVF Vets in advance for putting up with the incessant questioning that is to come. First thing on the list:
Is it 2011 yet?
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I remember feeling the same way when we decided to go for IVF. There's a lot of fear tied up with that decision, as it is the "be all and end all" of fertility treatments. If IVF doesn't work, then what? And it is such an expensive gamble to take. One, though, that is totally worth it (in my opinion, anyway!)
I'll be here rooting you along and answering any questions you may have. Hang in there, the next few months will pass quicker than you think.
Hugs,
Jo
I know it's a scary step! Be sure to use those of us who have been through it for questions and support! The next six months will fly by and you will be off and running! How exciting!
Deciding to move forward with IVF is a BIG fucking deal!!!! It is not taken lightly. I hope the rest of the year flies by so you can begin IVF!!! YAY!!
It is a big step but I felt so much better once we made a decision on which path to follow.
Hope all goes well and the next 6 months go by really fast!
Good for you, Melissa, I am so happy for you! This is such a huge decision and financial obligation, and I'm so excited to follow your journey!!
I totally agree with Jo's comments, IVF is a big deal and it did feel like the last step. However, I have learned over the years that there are many ways to do IVF (meds, icsi, lupron, assisted hatching), it made me less fearful that if a cycle failed we were out of options as a protocol change may do the trick. With that said, I did find IVF more taxing than IUI and certainly way more of a financial issue. We are here if you any questions. while sometimes I am sad to have the info I have from 4 past IVF cycles, I am comforted to know that it may allow me to help others along the way.
Crossing my fingers for next year!!
That's a TOTALLY huge deal!! I hope 2011 comes quickly for you!
Please, please, please run for Governor. You could do lots of embezzling. Actually, maybe you should move to a state where it's easier to embezzle (Louisiana? Rhode Island?) and/or the state is not in a tremendous deficit. Alternatively, please run in my state. You would rock!
It probably feels like a long way away but hopefully will arrive before you know it. I'm hoping for the absolute best for you guys with IVF!!
It sounds like you and your husband have approached this whole situation very sensibly, and I commend you for that. It's very easy to get swept away by emotions when dealing with something as emotionally-laden as IF.
I hope you are able to get your ducks in a row to move forward early next year.
YES! Better than a run for governator, I think. Deciding but then having to wait on finances is hard, I know. The payoff is all worth it, and I hope that holds true for you soon enough.
Well, as much as I hate it, I qualify as an IVF vet. I wish I had succeeded but at the very least, I can be a resource, right? Ha! On maybe what not to do?? Just kidding.
I remember deciding to do IVF, and bawling about it. And yet I still managed to do it five times in total. I always always tell my IVF newbies: just take it one shot, one ultrasound, one visit, etc. at a time. It's all you can do. We'll be rooting you on and I hope the finances work out easily for you. I know that part sucketh mightily.
congrats on 'coming out' about your ivf.....
Welcome to the funhouse. :)
We were actually thinking about coming to San Fran but the flights were way to expensive!! It is so great there and DH has never been so we will definitely make it out there in the next year or so!!
Woo-hoo! Congrats on having a plan and a timeline! I know it's so hard to wait, but you'll get there.
BTW, one thing I didn't realize until we turned to IVF w/ DS is that previously frozen SP sometimes are "handicapped" in that they have trouble penetrating an egg. Kind wish I knew that before our 3 injectable DIUI cycles.
You know I'm only an email away for anything you need. Just ask.
And to answer your question, sorry, it's not 2011 yet but it'll be here before you know it. Trust me.
What's the next question?
Deciding to do IVF was an agonizing decision for me, so I understand how you're feeling. This IS big news and typing it out definitely makes it feel more real. I never thought we'd do IVF either. I wish it was 2011 right now so you could be past all the financial worries and get started! Congrats on such a big decision and hang in there ... I'm thinking of you!
Thank you so much for sharing Melissa. I am so excited/hopeful/nervous for you. I'm sure you have a gazillion emotions about all this, and I appreciate how honest you have been through this whole process. I'm sure the money is a huge stress. I hope it all comes together for you. In the meantime I am thinking about you tons, and please continue to update. Love you!
IVF is such a big deal and I feel like as it becomes more and more of a reality to me- I keep digging myself deeper and deeper into denial. All I thought I would need is a little Clomid and look where that got me! It must be a relief to have a plan in place.
Thank you for all of your support in my blog- I appreciate it!
It IS a big deal, Melissa. And I would never say it's easy. But, I will promise you this, you can do it.
I really like lastchanceivf's "one at a time" advice. It's so true. To look ahead too far can be overwhelming.
And, you know, for a very special friend like you, I will be right here however you need...I can answer any questions you have (I guess 2 IVFs down and 1 to go qualifies me as a vet) and you can call me anytime day or night! I will never, ever forget Nikki offering to come give me an ass shot anytime my DH wasn't around...and I make the same offer to you.
I'm already skipping ahead. There will prob only be 1 ass shot. Bad me. Regrouping here...one day at a time!!
See you Sat to chat more...XO
This is a huge announcement! I'm happy for you guys.
I felt the same way about IVF. When our RE first mentioned it I silently though, "we're not going to need that!". But, as you know, we got there. It's a daunting experience but one that you'll be well-prepared for and that has produced so many successes! I'm always available to chat about questions or anything else.
Wow, Melissa, this is huge news! I know what a long road it's been to get to this decision, and hope that finally being in this place of knowing your next steps makes it all a little easier. And hopefully the hope that comes with a possible IVF success can outweigh the anxiety.
I hope with all my heart that this brings you the baby you have been waiting for.
That's HUGE news, Melissa! Way better than running for governor. We're putting tons of prayer/thoughts/mojo (whatever form you accept) towards you guys.
I can so relate to the feeling that this is HUGE announcement you need to make. That's because it is MASSIVE news you are sharing. I think along the IF journey this is one of the biggest decisions to take. It is about bringing out the big guns. I will be keeping you in my thoughts through the whole journey from right now as you start finding the money.
I am excited to read about your journey with IVF.
My week has sucked and I am pretty much spending the day in my bed watching TV and being sad, but I came here to tell you how much your blog comments have meant to me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your kind words.
Wow! That is huge news! And please do not feel like you have to appologize for it not being bigger news to share. I am certain this was not an easy thing for you to decide with Brian. And it is a huge to then share with others...family, friends, blogging community. I wish you guys all of the very best for when the time comes to try and during that time in between while you wait to get things rolling.
I am sorry to hear about your latest anniversary. Three years is a long time. My heart is with you and if you ever need to talk, call me.
Love you!
IVF is a big deal...and we will be here for you no matter what!!! If you need help with ANYTHING, you know where to find me.
I know this is an exciting but scary road for you to be on right now. I hope that the finances come together and you can get this show on the road sooner rather than later.
So excited for you!! :)
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