Why am I making it sound like a bad thing? Because it will be my first night away from Leah. Or first two nights. That part is up to me. Whether it's one night or two.
The wedding is only a little over an hour away, but it's an evening wedding at a vineyard. So driving home just seems silly. The rehearsal dinner is up there the night before, next day is the wedding, and of course brunch the day after.
My choice is that Brian goes up Friday, for the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. Stays at the hotel that night alone. And I come up early Saturday, leave Sunday late morning. OR we both go up Friday and come home Sunday Afternoon.
A weekend away? With my husband? Sounds pretty fricken great.
Now you know what I'm going to say; I don't want to leave Leah.
I would not have planned a weekend getaway for us.
Not yet.
But the time with him sounds lovely. And I'll be honest, occasionally I miss the me-time. Don't mistake my incomparable gratitude and love for my daughter. But sometimes? When I leave her with Brian to run to an errand, I get in the car and blast my stereo, and it feels so good to have that little piece of time to myself, even for just a half hour or so. I know this is normal. I know that a weekend away with my husband is a good thing. That it will be good for us. And I know I will rcover from being away from her.
And Leah will be fine. I know this. We'll have Brian's mom stay at the house with her. I know we could bring my MIL up there, and get a room for her too. But it sounds more stressful. Taking her up there, she'll be all out of her element, and then it'll be much harder on all of us than it would to just keep her at home; in her own environment.
This is great problem to have, I KNOW. And most certainly not the end of the world.
In theory, I want to go up for the whole weekend. And while yes, Brian will be busy with the wedding in part. It'll be nice to have some extra time alone with him. And I know I of course, will not regret it. I just haven't been away from her for more than 9 hours and I'm struggling with the thought of 48.
What did you do the first time you let your baby???
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I totally understand. My first time WILL be in one month, the first week of February. I'm going away for a girls' weekend at a spa and I advise you to just go ahead and do it because there will likely NEVER be a time where we don't feel guilty about it. :). I'm hoping just doing it will free me up to a world of possibility once I see the world doesn't end and Gabriel comes away unscathed after spending 2 nights away from his Momma.
See, I guess I'm just a little weird. My first night away from Little Bird was when he was 3 weeks old. He stayed with my parents overnight. At 10 weeks old I went with DH on a business trip for 3 nights and when he was 11 months we went to Cancun for 6 days... and no, I didn't feel guilty at all. I need that time to rejuvenate and LB loves his grandparents. Go and don't feel bad - Leah will love the time with her grandmother and you'll be able to connect with Brian - it's a win-win!
We haven't done it yet so I don't have much advice. Well, I did go away for a girl's weekend trip which was only a little more than 24 hours that I was actually gone. I think once you hit the road, however long you decide for, you'll feel much better. I think the anxiety leading up to it is the worst part. I'd say go for the two days - who knows when you'll get this opportunity again.
My first trip away from the little guy was when we went to California for a wedding.
I lamented over the trip for weeks. My biggest fears were that I would miss his first steps or that I would come home and my MIL would be "Mama".
The worst part for me was the anxiety leading up to it. Once we left, I had a great time reconnecting with Derek. And I snuck in some hugs and snuggles from the kids of friends to help ease the pain...(But you know that because I munched on Leah's cute cheeks!!!)
Go - have fun. Enjoy the time to yourself and the time to reconnect with Brian.
And concentrate on how sweet the reunion with her will be.
Personally, I'd do one night. I'd have more fun knowing it was just one night and not missing my baby as much since it was for a shorter time. But that's just me. My baby is younger than yours, but I have yet to leave her overnight and have no desire to do so. With that being said, it would probably be good for our family if we had a night away to reconnect. I think one night away would be perfect - two nights would just make me sad.
The time leading up to it is the worst - once you're actually AT the wedding, you will have a ton of fun, and you're right, it will be easier to relax knowing that Leah is home in her environment.
Have you done an overnight yet? Maybe plan a Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon get away (do dinner and a movie with your husband and then errands on Sunday without your kid!)... as a way to work up to it.
I'm talking big here b/c I've never been away for more than 24 hrs, but I totally think you should do the Friday-Sunday thing. That reconnect time with your hubby will be AWESOME.
I am no help at all - we have not left our son yet. He's 18 months old and I just cannot do it. We don't have family we'd trust to leave him with (poor health of our parents and siblings live far away), so we haven't. And we need to.
Good luck!
We have done two overnights with him at my mom's house. I was just at home doing a ton of stuff that I had been putting off and he was fine, I was fine... however... tell your MIL to keep her phone on her! My mom didn't respond to my morning texts/call for about 20 minutes and it felt like hours- I was mad and made it clear- you want the kid again, keep the phone on! (She only has a cell.) You can do it- and the bonding time will be good for them too. But it is hard that first time!
My hubby and I left our lil man for 2 days for our Anniversary, and it was hard to leave him, but once we were gone, it was a great get away for us.. The days leading up to it were the hardest, and when we were coming home (I was just ready to see him already)but it was much needed.. It's nice to have that couple time that once we become parents doesn't happen often.. My sister watched him for us, and would send me picture messages throughout the day so I could get my baby fix, and I would call her and check in periodically.. I think you should def take the weekend vacay.. You won't regret it, and you'll be SO happy you went :)
My little girl is almost 15 months old and we haven't done it yet. Partially it's becasue we don't really have our families around to help out and having to pay a sitter would cost big $$. We may do it in June as we have wedding to go to. You are still few months away and your grl will be a different kid then. Don't feel bad about it. It will be good for your daughter and your marriage.
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