So here's a little (actually alotta) history:
My husband (35) and I (31) started TTC in the summer of 2007. I genuinely believed that we would get pregnant on the first try. Ha. Fourteen months later, we moved on to testing through my OBGYN's office which revealed a severe male factor. She promptly pointed us towards the RE who I now hate told us IVF w/ ICSI or Donor Sperm would be our only options. After MUCH deliberation we chose Donor over IVF, partially because it was the most financially attainable option (our insurance covers NOTHING for infertility, not even diagnostic testing) and because we were concerned about the implications of the severity of his diagnosis might mean for our future children.
Fast Forward to December 2009 when we completed our SIXTH and final DIUI. All of them left us with straight up BFN's and a fair amount of debt. Our RE at the time and the second opinion we got a month later were dumbfounded and couldn't explain why none of the IUI's worked because my charts looked so great. Umm yeah, neither of those doctors caught the OPCOS which is clearly evident in an u/s and with knowledge of the fact that my cycle is 30 days. And interestingly enough, neither of them test for immunological factors... But at least I have an answer now as to why none of the dIUI's worked.. Not that it's any consolation.
That brings us to January of this year, I'm not going to lie- I was a complete basket case. We decided to take the rest of the year off to focus on our marriage and restoring my mental health. By March we had decided to plan for IVF in 2011 - with my husbands sperm. In the mean time, we've been doing our best to appear somewhat normal to the rest of our friends and family.
Fast Forward to December 2009 when we completed our SIXTH and final DIUI. All of them left us with straight up BFN's and a fair amount of debt. Our RE at the time and the second opinion we got a month later were dumbfounded and couldn't explain why none of the IUI's worked because my charts looked so great. Umm yeah, neither of those doctors caught the OPCOS which is clearly evident in an u/s and with knowledge of the fact that my cycle is 30 days. And interestingly enough, neither of them test for immunological factors... But at least I have an answer now as to why none of the dIUI's worked.. Not that it's any consolation.
That brings us to January of this year, I'm not going to lie- I was a complete basket case. We decided to take the rest of the year off to focus on our marriage and restoring my mental health. By March we had decided to plan for IVF in 2011 - with my husbands sperm. In the mean time, we've been doing our best to appear somewhat normal to the rest of our friends and family.
So there you have it. I look forward to reading all of your blogs, and hope you enjoy the last ICLW of 2010!
27 comments:
Here from ICLW :) Sounds like you've been on a rollercoaster ride! I'm glad you've gotten a proper diagnosis and found a new RE. I think its really important to find Drs you love. I've had plenty of problems with that myself. Sending you best wishes and prayers on your upcoming IVF cycle. Good luck!
what a roller coaster!!!
Sending you lots of baby dust for a BFP in the new year!!
happy ICLW #50
Happy ICLW. That is one crazy story. I am wishing you guys the best of luck for 2011. We are doing round 2 of IVF any day now, just waiting for AF. Hang in there!
I hope 2011 is a banner year for you!!!
I agree, ICLW snuck up on me this month! I'm excited to stalk your upcoming IVF! :)
Happy ICLW!!
I'm so excited about your upcoming IVF and looking forward to following along :)
Elizabeth
www.thecrazyseesaw.blogspot.com
........ as for your last post.... I think all husbands would like naked Christmas tree decorating to become a weekly sport..... LOL...
You have been through such an adventure already, and I truly hope that your first IVF leads to success!!
Happy ICLW from #37 ... and HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!
Hi there, this is my first ICLW and I'm also about to start my first cycle of IVF. I'm looking forward to watching your progress through IVF and keeping my fingers crossed that it goes well for you sooner rather than later!
Happy ICLW! I hope 2011 is the year you've been waiting for.
Btw, I burst out laughing just at the title of the email with the pic. It reminded me of something my husband would send. I couldn't control my giggles when I got to the bottom and saw your response. Hysterical.
http://mydustyuterus.blogspot.com/
WOOHOO!! SO EXITED FOR YA, SISTA!! OFFICIAL IVF CYCLE KICK OFF!
I will be sending universe shoutouts with every fiber of my being for you & Brian.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXO!
I commend you for taking a year off to focus on marriage and life. Our marriage was quickly dwindling with scheduled sex and too much stress. Have you found the time off to have helped? Good luck in 2011 and Merry Christmas.
WOW you have been on a rollercoaster ride!
I hope 2011 is the year that you become a Mumma!
~Happy ICLW~
#14 http://themissruby.blogspot.com/
~x~
May your Christmas be filled with Peace
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Your New Year with Hope
~x~
wishing you so much luck woth this ivf cycle!!!!
I hope 2011 is a good year for all of us. :)
hello from ICLW! i hope your first IVF is successful!
we just did our first IUI this week and we have been diagnosed with MFI. our RE said that IVF w/ ICSI is very successful! :) i'll be checking in with your blog to see how the IVF process works. when do you start the cycle?
happy ICLW! This IVF's for you! Best wishes. I am just a few days in front of you with my ivf cycle as well.
Good luck on your upcoming IVF cycle! I hope your new year starts off great!
ICLW#86
Happy ICLW! I love your plan of focusing on your marriage in prep for IVF. These are soul-trying times, to say the least.
Best of luck!!
We just did IVF with ICSI and had success and we have severe male factor. Not sure of your husband's specific situation but ICSI can do wonders! I look forward to following along your journey!
Taking a break is hard but I found it to be the best thing. Wishing you tons of luck in the next step.
ICLW
good luck to you in 2011!
I really hope your upcoming IVF does the trick and you have a happy newborn this time next year!
ICLW #92
How exciting! I hope that next month brings amazing good news! Good luck with IVF! I'll be following now so I can share your happiness in 2011. ICLW #110
Hello, stopping by for ICLW. What a journey you've been on. Sorry that you had such crappy docs. I hope that 2011 is your year!! Baby dust your way. Merry Christ,as.
ICLW #69
Thank you for sharing your ttc story. Mine is somewhat the same..well not exactly- just in the part with my husband having severe low sperm count and such. We skipped anu IUI..We will be doing IVF icsi in 2011./ MY first appointment is Jan 10th. I am wondering..there are a lot of women that I have been blogging with who are starting their ivf process in Jan..is there a way we can all communicate- or any ideas...I am sure it would help all of us.
Happy ICLW! It snuck up on me too, perhaps due to the season. It's always nice to find a new blogger to follow and support. Much luck to you next year!
It is so heart-breaking to learn about how you've had it so hard with dIUIs and financial and psychological costs of all that. I am in a similar situation. My hubs has severe male factor IF. Our insurance doesn't cover any of IVF.(unbelievable). We are considering sperm donor option with IUI. But, I am not sure it will work. My ER said that I have only 15% chance with it on each trial. They have found that my thyroid is under-active and I have irregular period. So, it may be better for us to shoot for IVF after all. But, we'll be in no position to pay for it (anytime soon). I am so sorry for rambling on your blog. I even applied for that clinical trial of FSH you mentioned about. Didn't work out.
I am so glad that you are moving forward with IVF. I have high hopes for you to have success with IVF. I will be praying for you. What is ICLW?
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